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There's a TV show in the US called, "What Would You Do" hosted by John Quiñones. The premise is simple: "When you think no one is watching, what would you do?" They create scenarios with actors to see how people respond to injustice, discrimination, and a number of other situations. They film the action, and the idea is that when people are given the opportunity to do the right thing, or the wrong thing, what will they do?
People can either surprise us with the quality of their character, or they disappoint us through the depth of their failure.
Does anybody know the "real you"?
This is a loaded question for those of us in leadership. We're often leading a group, a meeting, a team. People follow our vision. They follow our leadership. Our life work involves PEOPLE. We're surrounded by people.
But, do they know the "real me".
Nate shared a thought with me a couple of weeks ago as I continue to ask the question: What have you learned? What makes you a better leader? What are some tips, tricks, hacks that you can share with other leaders:
We had a conversation, which is partially shown below, but the challenge Nate gave me, and which he's giving to each of us, revolves around our ability to surround ourselves with some people that really KNOW us.
Here's a short conversation with Nate:
The quote I shared from Nate in the video is here:
"I see too many leaders trying to be friends with everybody and in so doing, they aren't truly deep with anyone and in the end, they are alone even though they are surrounded by people." Nate Taube
The challenge from Nate today is to simply have a couple of people in our lives as leaders that we are "known by". These are people that really know the real us and we are experiencing a true depth of relationship and a depth of trust.
How are you doing with this in your life? Are you one of these people who are surrounded by people, the life of the party, but no one really knows what's really going on in your heart? Are you real with anyone? Is your spouse the only person who sees the real you? Do they even see you?
Start by identifying one.
Here are some basic steps to take in this process:
1) Identify someone that is currently filling this role in your life, or identify someone you'd like to ask to fill this role.
2) Talk with them about it. This is a mutual relationship that is a "give and take" relationships. You are both pursuing the same level of "realness".
3) Make a plan: What does this look like? When and how do you start? How do you build it into your life, schedule, family? Come up with some steps
4) Live it and Learn from it. These relationships take time. Don't quit when it gets tough. Don't avoid each other when the conversation gets too personal.
Nate said for him it's 2 of these people. Start with one, then maybe identify someone else, but start today.
Nate runs a program in Ecuador called Cumbre Alta. Casa Deportiva Cumbre Alta is dedicated to sharing Christ to those around us as we reach the highest level of Ecuadorian sports. Cumbre Alta is a part of Inca Link. Here are links to more information and to Nate:
You can also email Nate HERE.
I'm looking for others willing to share some of their tips, tricks, habits and LEADERSHIP HACKS. Thanks to many of you that have responded and who's tips I'll be sharing over the coming weeks.
We'll do a couple more weeks of these tips.
Here's the format:
#1) What Did You Discover? What's the TIP?
#2) Why Does It Make a Difference In Your Life?
#3) Describe What You Do.
E-mail me HERE if you'd like to share on this platform.
"Some people are judged for being real, while others are loved for being fake." Unknown
"Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It's having the courage to show up when you can't control the outcome." Brené Brown
"Nothing in the world is better than having someone you can be yourself with." Unknown